Most people today lead very busy lives, trying to juggle work, family, household duties and numerous other things that that if not managed correctly can lead to feelings of stress and generally feeling out of balance. The good news is these feelings can be avoided by asking for help and delegating some of what you do to others.
You don’t have to do everything and be everything to everybody. Everyone needs to take time out for themselves once in a while, but to do this you have to get others to accept their share of the load. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with working hard and trying to do all you can for your family, and the love you get in return is priceless, but wouldn’t it be nice to get some help with the washing up and the house work as well?
Know When to Delegate Chores and Tasks
Whether jobs around the house or tasks at work, some of them can be delegated to other people, ensuring the workload is more evenly distributed. There’s no shame in that, and it’s not the same as having someone else do all the work while you sit back, put your feet up, and do nothing. It is just that you have come to realize and understand that one person should never be expected to do it all.
In many families these days both adults work full time. If you and your partner fall into this category have a system where only one of you does all the household chores is one-sided and can cause resentment. This in turn puts your life out of balance, making one partner you angry and irritable. It may be difficult initially but for longer term benefits, why not sit down and agree who will perform which tasks, and then stick to the agreement.
If you have children, they can also play their part. It is not slave labour to get your kids to help out, in fact you are giving them some essential tools that will be useful later in life. Even if the younger one can be taught to put their toys away and keep their rooms tidy. The older they get, the more responsibility they can be given. Do this correctly and you will come to a point where the household “runs itself”.
If you work in an office environment, work can be delegated in the same way.
What Does Delegation Give You?
Delegation will help to bring back the balance to your life. If you’re looking for that balance, you can find it within yourself and bring it to life through delegation. As they say in those adverts, You’re worth it! Achieving balance in your life provides benefits for both physical and emotional health, and you will not achieve the balance you are looking for if you spend all your time doing things for others.
Sometimes you have to be selfish, and do things just for you. Take a walk, get some exercise, or simply sit quietly and relax. When was the last time you sat down and had some quiet time or just read a book or watched a film? It’s time to bring your life into balance. Start today, and move forward.
If you take these steps it will not be long before you start to notice a difference in how you feel both physically and emotionally. Your outlook on life will be more positive, because you have balance. A good physical balance keeps a person walking straight and moving forward, a good emotional and life balance keeps you on the right path toward finding solutions to problems and finding more joy in everyday things.
Many people worry about delegation because they don’t want to upset others or ask too much of them. Some also mistakenly think that others can’t do things as well as they can, or that it is quicker to do it themselves. This is a perfectly natural reaction, but don’t let it stop you from doing what’s right for you, and achieving your goals and dreams. It is far more important to have balance in your life. People who really love and respect you will recognise and honour that.
You can be honest with family and colleagues about what you need, and they will do their best to help you, how many times have you heard in the past, “why didn’t you ask sooner?” If you have friends, family and colleagues who don’t know about the power and importance of balance in life, teach them, you will ensure that they are both strengthened and empowered to move forward in their own lives.
Till Next Time
The Time Doctor – Mike Gardner