Developing Self-Confidence

Save Time, feel less stressed and Become More Balanced

This is a guest post written by my friend Donnah Morgan who is the owner of Abfablife where she ‘Tames Mad Monkeys’ and helps clients to relearn how to breathe properly (we forget as we ‘grow up’) which in turn allows them to let go of tension and to become Mindful. To top it all she provides lots of practical tips and techniques to use in everyday life and bring a sense of BALANCE back – See more at:

Self-ConfidenceThe topic of confidence has come up numerous times this week in my conversations with clients and students……so what’s it all about?

My take on self-confidence is about balance; getting that level of satisfaction in knowing you are excellent at what you do without ego getting in the way.

If you look around there are human beings at other extremes of the self-confidence spectrum; those with very low self-confidence then those who are over-confident.

Being under-confident can lead you to taking fewer if any risks; developing and stretching yourself will never happen. At the other end, being over-confident may see you take too many risks, spin too many plates, stretch yourself beyond your capabilities, and whoops you crash. Those over-confident people may also find that their optimism may mean they don’t really try hard enough to truly succeed at what they are good at!

Therefore my suggestion is that you have a go at getting this right, which is simply being grounded in reality and your true ability at this point in time (remember as you grow your confidence grows). Developing your self-confidence will enable you to save time, feel less stressed and become more balanced.

So here are some of my top tips for you to consider:

  • Stop trying to be perfect – there is no such thing!
  • Recognise when you have done a, ‘good enough’ job
  • Don’t get very serious – after all this is your life
  • Remember to smile more often
  • Acknowledge you will make cock-ups – get over it!
  • Show compassion for others
  • When you make a mistake – learn not to do it again
  • Listen to you knowingness/intuition/get feeling more often
  • Look round corners you never know what you may find
  • Don’t beat yourself you – you are human with all the quirks and foibles so smile and move on.
  • Attempt to keep Balance in your life.

Which can you check off? Which will you need to work on?

Until next time


Mike Gardner is ‘The Time Doctor’ and is highly regarded as one of the UK’s leading Time Management specialists being regularly featured in articles in the small business sections of both The Times and Guardian newspapers. He is an author, speaker and mentor. He enables you to prioritize your activities, so that you can be incredibly productive, whilst still having time for the things that matter most in your life. He is an avid fan of Aston Villa, a Dad of Neil & Emma, a hubby to Wendy and in his role as an Officer with the reserve forces, he has completed operational tours of Iraq and Afghanistan.

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6 thoughts on “Developing Self-Confidence

    • Often the echo’s from the past affect the now, however the first step is to recognise them which you have done as you say ‘different areas’ then identify which you want to deal with first…..take the transferable skills from the areas you are confident in and slowly start to practice….this will become habit, once embedded then move on to the next…..remember to reflect on what’s changes. Thanks for taking time to comment, you may find other ideas on my blog page. Donnah
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    • Thanks for the reply Scott….it’s great you understand when to stop as you strive for perfection…it’s a Trait many people I’ve worked with haven’t acquired. This sets them up to fail, they spiral out of control leading to an imbalance in Life/Work, loss of Wellbeing and the old self fulfilling prophecy of ‘not being good enough’ It’s amazing how achieving ‘good enough’ is often far more than expected. Warmth Donnah