The topic of confidence has come up numerous times this week in my conversations with clients and students……so what’s it all about?
My take on self-confidence is about balance; getting that level of satisfaction in knowing you are excellent at what you do without ego getting in the way.
If you look around there are human beings at other extremes of the self-confidence spectrum; those with very low self-confidence then those who are over-confident.
Being under-confident can lead you to taking fewer if any risks; developing and stretching yourself will never happen. At the other end, being over-confident may see you take too many risks, spin too many plates, stretch yourself beyond your capabilities, and whoops you crash. Those over-confident people may also find that their optimism may mean they don’t really try hard enough to truly succeed at what they are good at!
Therefore my suggestion is that you have a go at getting this right, which is simply being grounded in reality and your true ability at this point in time (remember as you grow your confidence grows). Developing your self-confidence will enable you to save time, feel less stressed and become more balanced.
So here are some of my top tips for you to consider:
- Stop trying to be perfect – there is no such thing!
- Recognise when you have done a, ‘good enough’ job
- Don’t get very serious – after all this is your life
- Remember to smile more often
- Acknowledge you will make cock-ups – get over it!
- Show compassion for others
- When you make a mistake – learn not to do it again
- Listen to you knowingness/intuition/get feeling more often
- Look round corners you never know what you may find
- Don’t beat yourself you – you are human with all the quirks and foibles so smile and move on.
- Attempt to keep Balance in your life.
Which can you check off? Which will you need to work on?
Until next time