Family Time is Important Time – Enjoy it Now

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Family Time is Important Time

Let me start todays article by asking you a question, if you were to be taken from this earth tomorrow, what would you regret not spending more time on or doing?

How would you answer?

Quite a sobering and thoughtful question admittedly, for most of you reading this, your answer probably had something to do with having more quality family time, more time with friends or just finding the time to do the things that you enjoy the most.

For me it would definitely be around family time, when was the last time you spent quality family time with your loved ones? And by quality time I mean that time, that is free of distractions like, television, tablets and mobile phones.

In a Facebook group I’m a member of one of the members recently posted the following;

“Something that hurts my heart as a 9-5er. “Daddy can you come to my school today or are you going to work?” That is why I keep pushing on… So I can say “yes” one day”.

Another example of family time, for whatever reason not taking priority. I find that quite sad, and if the writer isn’t careful that “one day” may never come or if it does, it may come too late and the individual may find that when they have time, they’re no longer needed.

As some of you will know over the last seven months I’ve had my own health issues, during which time I’ve kept the British National Health Service very busy by having three heart attacks and a stroke, all following hip surgery. My friends think that having it all together so that I can recover in one go, is taking time management to the extreme. Now during all this I have kept positive but would admit to having the odd “woe is me” moment.

But the biggest reflection came after the first attack when I’d been told by the nursing staff that I was lucky to be here, as four out of five people that have an attack as severe as mine don’t make it to hospital. You should have seen the look on her face when I replied with my trademark mantra. “If that’s the worst thing that happens today, it’ll be a good day”.

However, that night it became a little more sobering, laying there in the Coronary Care Unit and admitting to myself that I was frightened/scared to close my eyes and sleep because I was concerned that I wouldn’t wake up again. Now don’t get me wrong it was not because I was frightened of dying, after doing operational tours in Iraq and Afghanistan I came to terms with that a long time ago, but it was the thought of not being able to see my Wife and Children again that really hit home.

Wendy (my wife) had been with me all day, but my kids were away at University and Drama School and we had not seen them for a few months although we had skyped almost weekly, the session planned for the previous week had been postponed, as we were all “busy”. We were due to skype the day of my attack!!

I’d been quite blasé during the day telling Wendy not to worry the kids and there was no need to have them rushing home, but that night I so desperately wanted to see Wendy and the kids together as a family unit so that we could have just a little more family time.

I went to sleep and woke up again, Wendy ignored what I said, the kids came rushing home and I got my wish, it could of all been so different, but although it’s been a tough period, I’m obviously still here to write this post and am on the road to a full recovery.

So as I come to the end of this article I’d like to give those nearest to you the quality time and the love they deserve, because Family Time is important time.

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Till Next Time

Mike Gardner is The Time Doctor

Mike Gardner aka ‘The Time Doctor’ and is highly regarded as one of the UK’s leading Time Management and productivity specialists. As well as being regularly featured in both online and off-line media outlets around the world, he is the author of the best selling time management book, Business Owners: Your Family Misses You. He regularly speaks on topics that are congruent with his mission of helping small business owners, entrepreneurs and independent professionals to be incredibly productive, whilst still balancing their business and family commitments in a way that enables them to feel fulfilled and guilt-free. He is an avid Aston Villa fan, a Dad to Neil & Emma, a hubby to Wendy and in his role as an Officer with the reserve forces, he has completed operational tours of Iraq and Afghanistan.

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12 thoughts on “Family Time is Important Time – Enjoy it Now

  1. Mike as always your blog post are awesome! I agree with you on this topic. We must take time to spend with family. I do as I sit with my mom in her room at night at 11pm and watch the golden girls and murder she wrote on tv and a few times a month we both go out and spend the day out and about. If I were to lose my mom I would be well devastated.

    All The Best
    Edward Haberthur

  2. This is an excellent reminder that at no time we should take family or friends for granted. None of us know when it could be our last and with events happening the way they do these days, that is far from being a morbid statement. It’s just reality.

    We grew up hearing, “Never put off ’til tomorrow what you can do today.” That is very relevant to time with family.

  3. Wow, Mike!

    So glad to hear(and see) you’re still with us! What a trying time for you and the family. I smiled when I learned Wendy didn’t listen to you — and she told the kids to come home. I like the girl!

    Your story hit home. I’m saddened by the idea that one day I could be gone and that it would happen before I had the chance to spend QUALITY time with the family. We do take life for granted, some of us.

    Thanks for sharing your story, and in my case, opening up my eyes!
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  4. Mike, I’m so glad you’re here. My Family is tops on my list as well. Since my first son moved out when he was 18, clear across to the other side of the states, I cherish each moment.

    When they were growing up I used to dream of not having to ‘do everything for them’, but now, I beg them for just 30-minutes of their time. I soak it up as it comes, even the ‘I love you mom’ text messages are treasures to me.
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    • Thanks Sara, pretty chuffed to still be here myself 🙂 We do take so much for granted and the little things are the things that matter the most

  5. This truly touched my heart Mike. Guilt is there that I am ‘there’ and ‘not being there’ with my closest ones. Thanks for this enlightening post Mike. Your upbeat spirit is contagious. Wishing you great health on your road to full recovery. Many blessings!

  6. Loved this article Mike. We definitely need to spend the most time on the things and people that mean the most to us. I’ve been rooting for you during your recovery, and I wish you continued health and happiness 🙂