Make Sure Your Habits are Helping Not Hurting You

Make Sure Your Habits are Helping Not Hurting YouA habit is something that you do over and over again, without really giving it any thought. We all have habits in our lives, things that we repeat in all areas of our lives whether that is at home, work or in personal relationships. Some habits can be helpful and productive, but unfortunately some of our habits can be unhelpful and get in the way of us achieving our goals, ambitions and dreams. Do your habits help or hurt you?


Ponder these points to determine whether your habits support or sabotage you:

  1. Link your habits to your goals. When you establish ways of behaving that are aligned with your goals, then your habits are helpful.
  •  For example, you floss daily and brush your teeth three times a day with an electric toothbrush because your goal is to have the prettiest smile possible.


  1. Keep track of a new routine to help make it a habit. For example, maybe you’ve decided you’d like to lose twenty pounds and have fitter body tone. So, you plan to walk thirty minutes five days a week and do twenty push-ups or twenty crunches three days a week. How can you keep track of your habits from day to day?
  •  To ensure you’re working on your fitness goals, write a “W” on your calendar when you walk and place an “X” on the days you do calisthenics. Then, once a week, weigh yourself and jot down your weight on the calendar.
  • Visuals help establish good habits. In this case, one glance at your calendar keeps you up to date on your progress toward your goal.


  1. Figure out why you have certain habits. Maybe you eat a doughnut or other high-fat snack when you’re at work. You see the treat, pick it up, and eat it. You rarely pay attention to the motivation behind this habit.
  •  Are you hungry? Maybe you skipped breakfast. Perhaps you’re snacking simply because the co-worker you’re taking a break with is snacking. Maybe it’s because you rarely keep unhealthy snacks at home so when you see them, you grab one.
  •  If one of your habits isn’t doing anything positive for you, consider that it’s sabotaging you in some way.


  1. Eliminate habits that are making you feel embarrassed or angry. If feelings of negativity surround one of your habits, it’s likely hurting you. To illustrate, consider the habit of smoking. As much as you’re driven to do it, you recognize that it isn’t positive or helpful.
  •  Do you feel ashamed and frustrated with yourself because you engage in the behavior? If this is the case, investigate your habit further. How do you really feel about it? Would you like to disengage from the behavior and stop it?
  • An automatic behavior that leaves you feeling negatively about yourself is interfering with your efforts to live a happy life.


  1. Replace one habit with another. Rather than trying to stop a negative habit, it may be easier to replace it with a positive habit. Ask yourself how you can change or replace the targeted behavior.
  •  Referring back to the smoking example, think about what else you could do instead. You could have a piece of sugarless gum or candy. Maybe you want to try nicotine patches to curb your desire to smoke.

When you become more conscious of your habits, you can decide whether they’re helping you or keeping you from moving forward and living a healthy, prosperous life. Make the decision to fill your life with as many positive habits as possible, so you can move closer to achieving the life you deserve.

Till Next Time

Mike Gardner – The Time Doctor

Mike Gardner aka ‘The Time Doctor’ and is highly regarded as one of the UK’s leading Time Management and productivity specialists. As well as being regularly featured in both online and off-line media outlets around the world, he is the author of the best selling time management book, Business Owners: Your Family Misses You. He regularly speaks on topics that are congruent with his mission of helping small business owners, entrepreneurs and independent professionals to be incredibly productive, whilst still balancing their business and family commitments in a way that enables them to feel fulfilled and guilt-free. He is an avid Aston Villa fan, a Dad to Neil & Emma, a hubby to Wendy and in his role as an Officer with the reserve forces, he has completed operational tours of Iraq and Afghanistan.

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10 thoughts on “Make Sure Your Habits are Helping Not Hurting You

  1. Hey Mike,
    Great article, concise but thorough! Even though I have heard that a habit can be formed in 21 days, like Joan, it takes more than that for me. The one method that has worked for me, when wanting to ditch a bad habit, is #5 or should I say replacing a bad habit with a good one!
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  2. I have so much trouble with establishing habits. I have ADD. I have read that it takes 3 weeks to make a habit. Well not for me. For example, I take melatonin every night before bed. I manage to brush my teeth every night because I have done that since I was a baby, like flushing the toilet every time, but almost every night I get into bed and start to read and realize I haven’t taken the melatonin. I have tried everything. I stack the pill bottle on top of things. put notes on the mirror, put the bottle in the sink so I have to move it before I brush my teeth. Maybe you could recommend a trick LoL
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  3. Create post Mike really got me thinking about some of my bad habits and the reasoning behind them. Thanks for the great post.