What do you consider to be your biggest priorities, have you ever sat down to consider where you should be really spending your time, perhaps you have never found the time to do it!! The things that you may consider to be a priority might not be to another person. Conversely, other people’s priorities might not be a priority to you. It doesn’t mean though that you can’t have similar priorities.
Below you will find five things that most people say they would like to give priority to along with a suggestion or two as to how you can give them the importance they deserve.
Some of your priorities may not be on the list but the idea remains the same –whatever the priority in order to give them the importance they deserve you have to maximise time use. Oh, a word of caution: too many priorities are not all priorities. So define which ones are real priorities and focus only on them, not on all of them.
Most people list family as their top priority. In America the president’s family is known as the first family; for most people, their family is first. Investing time with your family will strengthen bonds and unity between all family members. But the quantity of time spent with your family is not as important as quality of time spent with them. To be in front of a television set may or may not be quality time. Quality is lost if the concentration of each member is glued to the television or computer.
Some discussion between family members regarding the latest episode of the “Game of Thrones” or the latest cute video on Facebook may lead to quality discussions and quality time together, but an intellectual board game may be better. A day trip that gets everyone together as a family on a weekend, once or twice a month is ideal. Many people take the time to show thoughtfulness by sending cards or flowers on special occasions, but taking the time to do it when there are no occasions demonstrates real thoughtfulness.
Health is wealth, as we all know. However it is also true that your wealth is useless if you have poor health. It is more difficult (although not impossible) to get good health without wealth (even a modest one), so the two are somewhat intertwined. Just follow good eating habits, exercise regularly, and take things in moderation. Not only do you get good health if you exercise with your family (say biking or swimming together with your kids), you develop good family relationships too. Who knows, your child might be a future professional athlete. Hidden talents are usually discovered by accident.
A lot of people consider gathering wealth as part of their priority list, but not to the extent of sacrificing family relationship. While you keep an eye on creating wealth, keep the other eye on your family relationships. There are lots of examples of families that have been broken due to an over concentration on wealth; don’t be a part of it.
To create wealth, first and foremost you have to live within your means. The amount you save is not as important as the frequency with which you do it. Savings lead to investing. Investing leads to security, financially speaking. We’re not talking about hasty investing, but intelligent, calculated investing. Remember that wealth does not come instantly (except winning the lottery or similar). It takes a lifelong goal to be financially secure. If you check the historical background of known wealthy people, most of them got wealthy gradually and slowly. It’s like building a tower block; it doesn’t rise overnight. It is also common knowledge that hard-earned money stays. Wealth that comes easy goes easy. Going back to investing, you can invest your hard-earned savings into bonds or trust funds that yield higher interest. Shop and ask around. There are financial planners that can help you get started and going. Just be prudent, alert, and open-minded.
If your priority is building a career, specialisation is a key factor. To excel in your chosen career means to gather as much knowledge as possible to sustain growth. This ultimately makes you the go to person in your area of expertise. To remain as there, you must always be up to date with the latest trends and developments. Your world may be narrow, but well-defined. You will need to make time to attend conferences and seminars in your chosen field. You will also need to read current publications to stay in touch with what’s going on in your world, even to the point that you have to return to education for post graduate studies.
For some, intellectual growth amazes and interests them. Somehow, this kind of priority can be transferred to future generations. It’s like wealth that does not get lost no matter what. One good way to grow intellectually is to experience different lifestyles and cultures by travelling. Getting to know cultures you’re not familiar with is made familiar by going to where the action is and experiencing it firsthand. Read books, especially those related to historical backgrounds so you’ll know how things have evolved over time.
Many people also prioritise spiritual growth. To start with, let your emotions be filled with your belief that a Higher Being is responsible for your existence on earth. Give praise, embrace, and acknowledge that you exist to be of service to others, not to yourself by means of helping those in need.
Whatever your priorities are, you can have them as long as you focus your time on them.
Till Next Time
Mike Gardner – The Time Doctor